She screamed at the top of her voice as she ran out of the bedroom into the kitchem, resting her back on the fridge she slid down to the floor. Hot tears poured down her face as she held her head in her palms. She was trying to figure out what had gone wrong, where she had missed it. This was the same guy who would spend hours on the phone with her whispering sweet nothings to her, the same guy would walk her home after evening service telling her how much she meant to him.
Bisola and Fowope had been married for two years, they had both waited on the Lord and without any aorta of doubt knew they were meant for each other. Fowope was a Sunday school teacher while Bisola was a member of the choir, both were dedicated workers in their local church. They had read books about Christian courtship and marriage and they had no doubt in their hearts that they were meant one for the other.
The latest events have made both of them wonder whether Christian marriage is just a mirage and that every home is supposed to experience turbulence. Fowope who had been gentle, considerate and caring all of a sudden seemed selfish, overbearing and cold. Bisola could not understand what happened to the sweet side of her husband. His speech lacked courtesy and love and every time they have an arguement he would say just about anything to spite her and make her blood boil. She had called his attention to it several times; she had tried her best to talk with him in the calmest and most polite way possible, but he would always respond with disdain and discount all the issues that hurt her. He was more concerned about meeting the needs of his brother and sister who were in their third and final year at the university.
Bisola sought the counsel of one of her friends who also is a Christian. Tell him you want out! Nobody can treat you like a piece of property or crap. Yes you are a christian but perhaps you need a break, you need your space to think clearly. You do not have to endure the kind of treatment he is giving you. You are literate and you have a good job, you can do better than that. Her friends word rang in her ears as she drove back home. She was more confused now than ever, everything that Dina said was correct but she was not expecting her to counsel her along that direction. Her head was spinning as she navigated the bend to her house. What should she do now? She wondered. To be continued...
What should she do? I welcome your comments.
Although given in good faith, the counsel of her friend was inappropriate. If not for any reason, but for the fact that she did not hear the other side of the story - Fowope's version. There are always two sides to the story.
ReplyDeleteBisola should seek counsel from someone who her husband respects, could be their Pastor or a mutual friend who could talk to him, and get his own side of the story. Cos one would be surprised how her "best" has not been "best" enough.
She is a christian so I believe she should be studying the word, praying and fasting for her home. And I believe that God will come through for her.
I wont fail to mention this, friends are very good if you have good ones but friends may not be able to give you the answer to all your problems. Some friends may be able to give you counsel on your career or business, but not on your marriage. So watch where you go for counsel as many friends "in good faith" have broken homes because of sentiments. The Lord will help us. Shalom!