Who Speaks?

The weight of a word depends often on who speaks it. When wisdom is displayed in speeches, preaching or verbal communication, audience and respect would be given to the speaker.

 

 A friend of mine told me that her guardian at a time told her that she had never come across a child as dumb as her before. What did she do wrong? She had a grade of 'C' in mathematics... This individual is smart and her children are very brilliant, so she expected my friend to possess the same level of smartness as her children. Since my friend could not, her guardian called a friend and was discussing her 'situation' with the friend. "Auntie" as the friend was called said to my friend; 'you better start having babies because education is not meant for you'. My friend was content with the decision but wanted to work and find the right guy before starting to produce children. She got married and her husband told her "you lack insight to how life works because you are not educated". Her spouse's words confirmed what she had heard before! I love this story because my friend in her own words said from then she saw education as a personal war that she had to win. Today she is a graduate and doing well in her chosen field.

 

A whole lot of times we are hurt by utterances, words that are spoken especially by those who are close to us; parents or those who stand in position of authority or validation; spouses, bosses, siblings, close friends and so on. There are so many people whose lives have been defined by the utterances that were spoken to their lives a long time ago. They just do not know how to go beyond such hurtful and nasty words.

 

When the mean or hurtful words are spoken by those close to us and we tend to see the 'manifestation' perhaps years later, we often times conclude that such words are true and we cannot do anything about them. How many children have been told by their parents or guardians that they cannot amount to anything or that they will only go so far in life. When such children come across 'normal' life challenges, they do not have the determination to forge ahead to overcome obstacles. If a man tell his wife, you can never be productive or you are dumb, lazy or good for nothing, the woman may internalize such words and find herself unable to reach out to pursue any meaningful goal in life. If you are quick to remind your husband where his peers are or how he falls short as a man, then you are hurting and limiting his potentials. Such words do not go away, they play back at times when he is alone! We remember words that some of our siblings said to us when younger or how they compared us to friends or other children around such words make us believe the worst about ourselves when faced with life's challenges.

 

However, all these things do not matter because the word of God is asking a question this morning:

Lamentations 3:37 NKJV

 

"³⁷ Who is he who speaks and it comes to pass,
      When the Lord has not commanded it?"

 

For me when situations present themselves and I seem to have a sentence that is not pleasing in any particular situation, I ask the situation this question and guess what? It does not matter who or what, the answer will always be NO ONE! You do not need any man to validate or discount you, God has the final say because He is the only one who controls times and seasons! So if negativity has been spoken into your destiny, arise and cancel it, reaffirm who you are in God and what He has said concerning you. To answer life's question, you have to know the all knowing God who has all the power and answers. Tell your situation it is lying, tell your limitations that you will forge ahead, be determined to apply violence against anything that want to steal or rubbish your destiny. It is only from the mouth of the Most High that woe and well-being proceed. In other words, when am in favour with God no man can speak negativity to my life and render me captive.  Go into this week with confidence in the word of God and face every man and situation with the right answer; only God has the final say!

 

Shalom!