She opened the neatly wrapped gift box but her countenance dropped. She rolled her eyes in annoyance and said; “I specifically told him I wanted a black patent, 4inch heel, open toe Christian Louboutin shoes for my birthday… so why bother when you knew you were not going to give me the exact thing I requested for”. I usually do my shopping myself but when you requested for the size, color, make and style I thought you would make a bit of effort to give me my heart desire….“How long does it takes to get water, he yelled from the dining room. Do I have to sit here all day because I want to wash my hands?”
How do you make request in your home? How do you address your spouse or react when things are not done your way?
Please is a polite addition to a request while thank you is a conventional expression of gratitude. Everyday we make requests and expect people to carry them out; in our homes, we ask our spouses, children and household employees to run errands but are we courteous enough to ask them nicely or appreciate their efforts when such errands are completed? At work do we remember the ‘magic’ words when addressing a colleague or junior worker? As husbands, do we roar instructions down to our wives or do we exhibit civility in the way we place our requests? As wives, do we ever say thank you for the tiniest of help or assistance we get from our husbands?
When your husband buys the wrong grocery item do you remember to say thank you before telling him how much of your time he has wasted and what things will not work out well because he picked up the wrong item?
The next time you want your expensive white shirt dry cleaned; drop off or pick up, try being courteous. Also, the next time you want your husband to take out the garbage, refrain from nagging or ordering him. Genuine please is like magic. Is it not funny how we train our children to say please and thank you but we ourselves never really count the words as important? Do you ever remember to say thank you to your husband for fixing the drains or replacing the bulb never mind the other big things that get done?
It is a woman’s duty to cook, clean take care of the home and so on. However, there are some women who do not do any of these things and their husbands still love them for who they are. Do you appreciate your wife for making your home a haven, peaceful, habitable and for raising your children? Do you find it important enough to say thank you when your wife goes all out to be hospitable to your friends or family members?
For bills that get paid; cell and home phone, hydro or electricity bills, for your cousin or niece that lives with you, remember to appreciate your spouse for allowing that.
It is important not to take anything for granted. Please and thank you are words that should be used more often among couples and you will be amazed at how many quarrels will be averted if we are more courteous in our relationships. Let each remember to thank the other for chores or duties that get done.
Please be a blessing and forward this to whoever you think will benefit from it and Thank you for doing so.
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