Everyone one of us have our fears; things that create anxiety and apprehension in us. As singles (unmarried) male or female one major area of our lives that create anxiety in us stem from the following questions: what does the future hold for me in the area of marriage? Who am I going to spend the rest of my life with? Will it work? Will I know how to handle marital pressure? Will I make the same mistake my parents made? How will I avoid becoming part of statistics? Divorce is not limited to non believers anymore, it has crept its way into churches and even unto altars.
The fear of the unknown lead people to find security at all cost. A lot of young ladies see money as a source of security and that explains why love no longer drives marriage. God's plan for you is that you will marry someone you love and who loves you in return. God's purpose for marriage is that you enjoy companionship and procreation with someone you love and trust. When you marry a man just because of his money, you may never earn the man's appreciation or attention because time will tell why you have married him. A lot of girls from third world countries regardless of whether they say they are Christians or not, would do anything to marry a man who lives in the Western world. This is solely because of the misconception that he is comfortable and will provide for a woman's needs. At the end of the day, this leads to deception, lies, violence once you have become his "MRS".
As a young lady are you willing to become the wife of any man as long as there is fame attached to the role? You do not care what you have to do to become the second, third or fourth wife of a man because he is a politician. Perhaps you are competing to win the heart of the newly ordained pastor or minister so you can become "mummy pastor" or Mother-in-the-Lord. If you are not trained to handle human beings, you end up mishandling them or they will mishandle you. Time may be against you and you are willing to compromise and marry whoever comes your way, but a few months in a miserable marriage will make divorce look so peaceful...
As a Christian, male or female, what are the reasons why you are longing to get married? If they are just flimsy reasons like; my mates are already married, am tired of jumping around, my mother is worried or I will not get a title or position if am single, you may never find fulfilment or joy in such a marriage when you eventually get into it. Violence against women within the institution of marriage has been on the rise in the last little while and it makes me ask why? If you are a lady and your are reading this, please do not write yourself off and whine about not getting younger. Have you written yourself off that you too can make it in life therefore, you see an individual as your ticket to prosperity? God alone knows the heart of man and He is the one you should consult on marriage.
As a Christian, male or female, what are the reasons why you are longing to get married? If they are just flimsy reasons like; my mates are already married, am tired of jumping around, my mother is worried or I will not get a title or position if am single, you may never find fulfilment or joy in such a marriage when you eventually get into it. Violence against women within the institution of marriage has been on the rise in the last little while and it makes me ask why? If you are a lady and your are reading this, please do not write yourself off and whine about not getting younger. Have you written yourself off that you too can make it in life therefore, you see an individual as your ticket to prosperity? God alone knows the heart of man and He is the one you should consult on marriage.
Parents, let us discourage our children from getting into relationships that are likely to destroy them just because we want them to be comfortable. A man who sees himself as a god to you and your family will not think twice before he hurts you just because he has concluded that he is not answerable to anyone of you, afterall, he is the "El-shaddai" who provides for every member of your family.
1 Sam 25:25-31
Abigail the pretty, intelligent, well mannered and initiative wife of Nabal had read and heard about David, a man after God's heart who had strength and character, a solid warrior and leader of the army of Israel. How she admired and loved this great man and wished for the good qualities in him to be found in her own husband! That will never be the case because dynamic Abigail was married to a FOOL. Although wealthy, Nabal lacked social skills, neither did he possess emotional intelligence. He was a proud recluse who lived in the euphoria of his possession. He had never heard about David or his exploits, neither did he pay attention when his own servants told him how fair and protective this great warrior was to his servants. He belonged to the ilk of men who could say any rubbish or senseless word that could easily attract wrath upon his family.
Abigail had a second chance at love and life. She appeased David, displayed wisdom and secured a place in an enduring kingdom because she ended up marrying David. Not everyone will have Abigail's destiny...make the best of what God has given unto you, wait for the right man, be the right man.
In conclusion, Nabal syndrome can be defined as "opting out for folly because of the now". A lot of smart, beautiful, God-fearing, well mannered ladies give themselves away to godless, ungrateful, unbelieving, selfish and mean men because they have money. Men who are quick to be verbally, financially, physically abusive as well as hinder a woman from fulfilling her destiny are not worthy of you.
Wait for your David; a man who knows God, value your god-given qualities and will treat you well, shower you with love and affection and make you see the demonstration of God's love by his way of life. Be not deceived, there is still a remnant, men who have not sold their souls to Baal! Why would you regret in the house of a fool when your David is on the way.
You belong in the palace not the house of a fool!
Blessings
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