Character Compliments

Compliments....you look lovely, smashing, fantastic, out of this world. Telling a 57 year old woman she looks 25, enhances her self confidence, when a man admires his wife regardless of her age, she is re energized, spurred on to be better in other areas.

Telling a man he looks good in his designer shirt/shoes all the time does no always cut it for him... For most secure men, it takes more than "honey you look sexy" to validate what is inside or who is aiming to be. There comes a time in marriage when what reinforces your love for a man is no longer the flowers, chocolates or perfume but rather his acts of kindness, his initiative, consideration and thoughtfulness, ability to go the extra mile for your convenience.

A man who identifies when you are stretched beyond your limits and steps in to take care of little things, a man who encourages you to be your best, knows your are human and prone to mistakes, failures yet encourages you. It would take more than "you look handsome" to compliment him.

Learn to compliment the strength in your spouse. For the way he handles the children, exemplifying godliness, being hardworking, kindness, love, hospitality, having a mind of his own, providing for the family. If your husband works with his hands, compliment him, if he uses his brains, compliment him. When you make it a habit to always say positive things instead of nagging, you will enjoy him more. For volunteering to be a big brother to the son of a struggling single mother, for assisting an elderly lady with chores like cutting the grace, clearing the snow, for giving money to the widow on your street without suspecting him. Compliment him for being a good companion regardless of how often you argue...

I guess you are wondering how you should compliment a man who does not have anything compliment able about him or his character....look a little closer...everything God made received God's validation of being good. Maybe you are negatively altering your world by not seeing what is good in your man. Start with the minutest appearance of kindness, zoom in on moments when he expects something negative from you. Add thank you to your vocabulary and look out only for positive things in him.

The world runs on seeds, sow what you want to reap! Sow character compliments to your husband and you are bound to touch a chord in his heart.