My husband is the best Man in the whole world!

I wrote this title as my Facebook status yesterday knowing I was going to get a variety of responses and truly I got all sorts...  For those who are reading you probably have mixed reactions; curiosity, irritation, indifference. The main reason is to let you know that people will treat your spouse the way you treat them. If you portray your wife as next to the Queen of England, very few people will have the audacity to treat her otherwise. If your man is portrayed as a king, he will be seen in the best light from friends and all. With a title like this, you are likely to want to meet my husband and see what makes him this special. In the same vein if I write something negative, you are likely to want to satisfy your curiosity and find out what kind of man he is to get such negative publicity.

How many of us are quick to wear an attitude of "couldn't care less" when we have misunderstanding with our spouses? I was talking to a friend once and she called her husband all the ugly names in the book. Yes, he has offended you and you are upset, part of self control is the ability to "keep somethings in" when you are upset just because of the day that same husband will have a status update as "honey, sweetie, sugar, dearie" and all the diabetes causing names...lol

Our human nature comes into play and we offend one another, but do not air all linen on the public line because change is the only permanent thing. We learn every day and what is making you upset and angry today may not carry the same weight tomorrow when you have matured beyond that level. Are you quick to report your spouse to your parents,friends and Pastor? You need to understand that we all have faults as humans and refrain from doing so.

 I do not speak about silence in an abusive relationship! For every time your husband does not buy a birthday present or does not give your parents money, he becomes "enemy of the state". "My friend's husband bought her a brand new car for her birthday, how come this man has never bought me a good handbag?"  Thank God for husbands who can buy the whole world for their spouses, that tells me you have a lot of work to do in the place of prayer... Promotion does not come from the East or from the West, you need to ask God to promote your husband too. We need to exercise caution and discipline in the way we express our hurts.

That man/woman may mature and come to a place of understanding far better than where he/she is today, how would you redeem his/her image at that point? An older friend of mine was giving a testimony one day and he said "I thank God for my wife, she keeps me on track" the guy is educated and knows what he is doing but the wife just helps him get himself together in the face of his many commitments and he openly appreciated her. Are you apologetic or ashamed of your spouse in anyway? The rich also cry! If the people who look like they have it all figured out and together should tell you what it takes to 'look' the way they do, you will thank God for your blessings...

For the woman who is sloppy and does not know how to cook, encouragement and support can make her a great competition for Martha Stewart. Complements and interest in what she is doing can make her go all out to improve but if you are always destroying her self esteem by your comments, she may just give up totally. Ridiculing and comparing your spouse with someone's will only breed indifference in them. Be grateful for whom God has given you and with team work the shortcomings will be improved.

2Corinthians 10:12 NKJ

"For we dare not make ourselves of the number, or compare ourselves with some that commend themselves: but they measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves among themselves, are not wise".

It is about time you start walking by faith and calling the things that are not as though they were, as a man/woman thinks in his heart, so is he...You can work with God to make your spouse the best in the whole world.

You are not allowed to get upset or irritated with me, what do you see? Yes, I mean that, my husband is the best man in the whole wide world!!!