In this context I am talking about "personal problem, emotional disorder" that's the dictionary definition by the way. The question is not if you have issues, it is about being solution oriented...Do you need to seek help, do you need to look inwards to make changes? You get to a point in your relationship that talking to older friends, contemporaries or family members does not really cut it. Here are a few things that the Lord has helped me understand over time:
**If anyone tells you they have a perfect relationship, thank God for them but that is not true, they have mastered their differences and are working at them.
**It is not enough to join every group about marriage without putting anything you learn to use.
**People learn to work out their differences, improve on areas that constitute a sore point and pick up their cross daily looking unto Jesus.
**There are times that you will reach your tipping point, you may need to SEEK HELP at that junction; spiritual or professional, do not shy away!.
**The main issues that surface year in year out need to be purposefully sorted out (if pressing toothpaste is still a problem after years of marriage, then maybe you need to resort to chewing stick or get it right!)
**The grass only LOOKS greener on the other side or maybe people pay a higher bill on hydro.
**For every cordial, blissful relationship, someone is paying a price of humility, respect and submission
**You are not your friend/brother/sister, you need to work out your OWN relationship. Your uniqueness plays a role in your relationship, find out what works in your own home.
**Do not compare yourself with anybody, you are the only one with your DNA.
**Play in your relationship, something brought you together, it has to be maintained.
**What you sow now in your relationship will yield fruits, watch out for harvest!
**You can't leave things to work themselves out, you have to work them out.
**Unresolved issues fester and they stink overtime.
**Rediscover the friend/lover/charmer (or whatever tickled your fancy about your spouse) you married.
**If you are married, there is a little word that has to be a buzz word SEX, (I know the guys will love me for this, you never have too much of this in marriage...lol)
**PRAY,PRAISE,PRAY and PRAY a little more until your issues become resolved...maybe they will not all be but at least you will enjoy every moment to the best of your ability. Phil.4:6
I am working at my issues and am trusting God for positive results...how about you?
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