The Perfect Locator

Singleness subjects you to pressure a lot of times; from well meaning parents, Aunties, Uncles, brethren and even friends. However, that is not enough reason to allow yourself to take a life defining decision in a hurry. As a lady, you wonder where the man would come from, would he match your imagination and be a man of your dreams? Will he be on the same level in terms of your faith, will you have anything in common with him, will he be good looking and caring? As a man, you also look around and see women, in different shape and size, they profess to be born again but a few hours spent in their company leaves you wondering if you will ever find the right person. Will you ever find a woman like the one described in Proverbs 31? Someone who your heart will always trust?

Looking for the right partner always blinds us to the fact that we need to be the right partner. "I want a caring woman, a good cook, a godly and respectful woman", those are good qualities you are looking for, but are you caring as a man, are you helpful and willing to help around the house if you get married today or are you just hoping to find a glorified house help? Is your constant presence at church a bait to get a godly woman? You do not need to be a rocket scientist to know water will always find its level. As a woman do you say; "I want a man who is all made, nice house, cars, and great job". Do you have a good job yourself? What are your qualifications? Is there a need to improve yourself academically? If you are unemployed and seeking a ready made man you are likely to be "purchased" and adorn the ready made house.

I have discovered that you only find the right partner when you are willing to be the right  as well as partner with God. A godly woman can only be discovered by a man who is set to seek the heart of God. There are people who are out to play games, you want a good, christian partner but you still want to enjoy the world...you can hardly serve God and Mammon! Not every man who comes to church is a godly person neither every woman you see in the choir or who serves as an usher. When seeking for a partner, do not allow yourself to be cajoled into the displays and gimmicks. Seek the heart of God and you will find your partner.

I leave you with a scripture that never ceases to amaze me about God's ability to do humanly impossible things...2Kings 6:5-7New International Version

"As one of them was cutting down a tree, the iron axhead fell into the water. "Oh no, my lord!" he cried out. "It was borrowed!" The man of God asked, "Where did it fall?" When he showed him the place, Elisha cut a stick and threw it there, and made the iron float. "Lift it out," he said. Then the man reached out his hand and took it.

Since when did a wood begin to magnetize an iron? Well, that tells you that regardless of your status, location or present state, God is able to match you to the right person.
Whether you are a man or woman, God is the divine GPS(Global Positioning System) He is able to locate the right man or woman, you will be found of the right man and the "right woman will offer to give your cattle drink". Any attempt to go on the journey of searching a soul mate through friend's experience, what you have read will yield a fruitlessness. However, allowing yourself to be led and helped by God will bring you to the place of satisfaction. Any decision that does not give you inner peace, no matter how appealing to the eyes it may be will only lead to danger.

Do not hold any idol in your heart about your specifications (looks, height, physique etc), God sees beyond our posing and pretense. That physical quality you are longing for in a life partner might just be the one thing that will hunt you later. "I love women with curves", "I love a dark skinned man" those are things that will not really count on the long run...ask those who are married. If you marry a man because of his voice, accent, diction or appearance, you will hardly hear the accent once you get married and he is giving you grieve. A woman's curve will no longer appeal to you when your home becomes the extension of hell. May that not be your portion in Jesus name.

When you let go and let God, you can only find the right person who will give you peace and serve God alongside with you in righteousness and holiness. Seek for qualities that will last beyond the wedding day and will sustain your relationship.We have had enough of damaged hearts and souls,do not be a part of evil statistics.

Blessings.